*Matt understands more than I think – so I must be careful not to underestimate him.
*Matt is responsible for his own learning, and he is eager to live up to that responsibility. I can introduce him to new things and ideas, but I can’t force him to learn. I create opportunities and environments for him to discover but I can’t make him explore. I am learning not to judge his learning ability by what I see. Often I think he hasn’t taken something in and then he surprises me by showing me that he understood all along.
*Matt’s life and his development can become a bit all consuming and I could spend all my time focused on Matt. But that is not healthy for me, my marriage, or my friendships. As I am finding peace with Matt’s syndrome and my life is settling back to normal, I am seeing that I have been so focused on Matt that I have left gaps in other areas of my life that I value. I am learning that I have to intentional about giving time to those other parts of my life otherwise it will never happen.
*I’ve learnt to celebrate the small steps. This has been such a powerful weapon against impatience and despair.
*It is good to ask for help. Friends don’t always know what to do, but are keen to pitch in when asked. I have always been someone who coped well on my own. But I am learning that asking for help really does make life a lot more manageable. And people like being asked, they like feeling needed, they like feeling that they can contribute – this never occurred to me before.
*When I really don’t know what to do I can pray and God will guide. This last year I have discovered more and more that the God is a speaking God. Story after story in the Bible is about a God who communicates with His people and has an opinion on things. He likes being asked and He likes sharing His ideas. I am learning to ask and listen. And I have been quite overwhelmed by how He does speak, and how wise His ways are. I am eager to hear more and walk in His steps.