We felt it important to also share our thoughts about how we as a Christian community can respond to those who are suffering in our midst. Often people do not know what to do; or they feel awkward and so they stay away or hold back. Based on our experience, this is what we recommend:
But God doesn’t do the same thing in the same way to each person who is going through a tough time. Instead of assuming what God’s agenda is, ask him about what He is doing in this person’s life and what message it is that He wants you to bring. Let go of the safe standardized responses and rather let God guide to you.
Don’t give up – go the distance.
Lloyd and I have both grieved the loss of our dreams and expectations we had for our child's life. We are learning to embrace new dreams and expectations. I don’t doubt there will be moments of pain again in the future, but I think the worst is behind us. Most of my days are filled with gratitude for Matt and delight at watching his beautiful personality emerge. We are finding peace that God didn’t answer our prayers for a miracle to “heal” Matt. We have come to believe that God is not going to change Matt, but rather He is going to use Matt just as he is to help change the world.